#Friend committed suicide professional#

I wish you all the healing in the world OP.Just past suppertime on a starry night in November, several unfamiliar cars pulled up outside 251 Waterford Crystal Drive, in Dardenne Prairie, Missouri, where news vans had been parked for weeks to cover a tragedy that came to be known, in the bluff shorthand of the morning shows, as the MySpace Suicide Hoax. It won't ever be painless to remember this event, but it will hurt less with time, and consume less of your feelings. Remember to reach out to others who are also grieving. Focus on your good memories with thankfulness and gratitude for the time you got to have with this unique individual. Remember the good things about your friend. Treat yourself kindly in the coming days. Losing someone to depression is to lose them to an illness. It takes massive medical intervention, and even intensive medical treatement can fail. It's difficult to treat, and even harder to cure. Suicide is the end result of a lethal case of painful thoughts and feelings. You won't find peace focussing on thoughts like that which lead to anger. It isn't useful to think of suicide as selfish, cruel, or uneccesary.

That's still what I want on the days my thoughts go back to the easy way out of pain. If I had succeeded at dying the day I made the decision to do so, I would have wanted everyone to blame me, only me, and move on and get better each day. Apply stoicism to your actions in reponse to this, and don't look for blame anywhere except where it truly belongs, with your friend. Grieve, reach for acceptance, allow yourself to work through your pain, but push anger out of your heart and mind. The choice your friend made was their own choice to extend themselves a certain kind of desperate and irreversible mercy. It's easier to feel safe if you can blame something or someone and give yourself a sense you can control that thing, that person, and your future actions. You may try to tell yourself you could have stopped it, just to feel some control over the future, just to believe you can place blame somewhere that is actionable.

#Friend committed suicide professional#

Please do not feel survivors guilt, and if you do feel it then seek professional help immediately. The compulsion to die cannot be resolved by another person, it has to come from internal resolve to survive. When someone has decided they've had enough, and they choose to end their suffering by ending their life, that action is theirs alone. Now I'll speak to you as a suicide survivor, PTSD patient, and sufferer of major depressive disorder and suicidal ideology, as well as someone who has lost others to suicide: Be extra generous to yourself with your rituals of self care and daily routine. Sudden deaths like this not only cause tremendous grief, but also trauma which can make us activate fight or flight. Try to soothe your nervous system as much as possible. Meditate, and take care of your body and mind. Let yourself have time to grieve, and to sit with your pain. Treatments such as EMDR can greatly expidite the process of acceptance. So much can be done about trauma and loss with professional help. It releases cortisol from the body, and aids in your brain's ability to process trauma.

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